Time and Pain

20 Jan

Since the passing of Tiki Tiki I have ask’d myself several times if my pain will ever go away… I know that the intense grief over the loss of a pet is normal and natural. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s silly, crazy, or overly sentimental to grieve! But when does it stop hurting so much?

People who don’t understand the pet/owner bond may not understand this pain.

During the months I spent with Tiki Tiki he became a significant and constant part of my life. He was a source of comfort and companionship, of unconditional love and acceptance, of fun and joy and I find myself devastated by the loss of such a relationship.

So I’ll let time pass me by as I wait patiently for the feeling of emptiness to go away, for the lump that forms in my throat every time I see his pictures to stop forming. I wait for the time to come when I can laugh at his memories and not cry.



8 Responses to “Time and Pain”

  1. harlsmits January 21, 2011 at 09:16 #

    I’m so sorry your Tiki TIki passed away! It is horrible pain. One year I lost two pets, a cat and a dog, and it was devastating. But as time passed I was ready to adopt again, and my husband and I got two kitties, sisters, from the shelter. I just think that we give our pets everything we can, love and resources, and give them happy lives, and they give us unconditional love in return. And after they pass we are able to do the same for more animals, rescuing them from the shelter and a possible bad end. Just keep thinking about all the happy times you spend together, and don’t let anybody tell you how you should be grieving! Everyone is different and grieves in their own way, and our furry friends are as much a part of the family as anybody else and deserve to be mourned. My thougts are with you.

    • Pkitass January 27, 2011 at 12:42 #

      Thank you…. It’s been very hard for us to accept his passing.

  2. marinasleeps January 21, 2011 at 15:57 #

    I’m so sorry…. I have gone through the same thing before. Your right though. People who say that have never had a relationship like that so they can’t understand .

    • Pkitass February 9, 2011 at 10:00 #

      And I feel bad for those who haven’t had the pleasure to experience such unconditional love.

  3. Diana February 8, 2011 at 14:40 #

    I lost my sweet kitty, Amanda Mousington on 9/11. Yes, that 9/11. I still mourn her passing and always will. It is a testament to your humanity that you grieve the loss of your little boy.

    Dwelling in darkness will not honor his memory as well as dwelling on his love and remarkable gift to your family. Your love will keep his memory alive forever.

    Best wishes for your future. As hard as it will always be, heart loss makes humans stronger.

    • Pkitass February 9, 2011 at 10:03 #

      I am sorry for your loss on such a day. In Tikis memory we have planted a little pine tree to honor him. This has helped us cope with his passing.

  4. Living Dilbert February 9, 2011 at 07:56 #

    I am SO SORRY for your loss of sweet Tiki Tiki. I am so ashamed that I missed this somehow until I saw the post today. Tiki Tiki was a very special little one and YOU are very special too. You gave him unconditional love and joy and you shared him with us. You both are very loved.

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